A Woman’s Worth

The greatest sin the world forbids a woman to do, is love herself.

See, she is the wife before she is an  individual. The mother  who

cares for herself last. Someone’s sister or aunt. She never belongs

to herself. God forbid she does.

— Day Sibley, A Woman’s Worth

He Called Me a Wild Woman

B. Riggs

you and the wild are one. longing/ brewing/ waiting to be liberated.

relinquish all/ that has been repressed. thrive in danger/ take flight

dare/ seize the adventures/ one would cower to.

Black body

Paint her body soft

welcome her warmth

dare color her dark

get lost in her essence

look into her eyes

see goddess

she’ll make a believer out of you.

Esmeralda

2009

I tempted you with my words
hands playing on your bare skin
caressing your firm breasts.
You lying on my bed, moans
escaping our mouths. Me looking
into your eyes, you looking into mine.

Manic Pixie Nightmare

The best thing he did as the word spilled from his fingers and made its way across my computer screen was to call me a “cunt.” Why thank you, dear sir, for not calling me a “bitch” I’m glad you know the difference between a female dog and a human being that happened to born with a vagina, but you probably think we’re one in the same.

I’m sorry, I didn’t know I was borrowing your ego, last time I checked I wasn’t inclined to talk to you. You seemed to be under the delusion that I owed you my time. I’m sorry I don’t have any cookies to spare for your bruised arrogance, maybe your parents wouldn’t mind giving you a treat, just like they forgot to teach you a little thing called respect…

Sorry, not really sorry Sour Puss, to inform you that I’m not a candy machine where you can insert your superiority and take your pick for the liking when and how you want! I am not your girl next door, your definition of “someone who is different than the rest” and I’m damn sure not your Juliet to your Romeo.

It’s obvious you can’t handle any of my “no’s” what makes you think I’d put in my time were you’ll get me to say “yes.” Never did it ever occur to you that this “cunt” is trying to stay of afloat in a game called capitalism, working two jobs only to make 63% compared to men and the majority;

going to school drowning in my own hungry dedication for more just so I won’t have to work two jobs, trying to help my family. No, it didn’t occur to you that maybe I’m too fucking tired to talk because your whole life you’ve been invalidating a woman saying no.  I’m not one of the girls that’ll give you a free pass to disrespect me!

Trust and believe, messing with me is like challenging God! You will lose.Did you forget, even Adam had to leave the Garden of Eden with Eve by his side? Dear sir, oh I mean keyboard warrior, do tell how you’re better than me; but take note: Eden isn’t the only place you can get expelled from.

— To’Wednesday Sibley, Manic Pixie Nightmare 

Beyoncé, Black Pride and Misogynoir

Through all the hurrahs, long commercials, and bad calls made by the referees millions tuned in to see who would be this year’s super bowl champ. The big talk of the town that’s been flooding my Facebook news feed was Beyoncé performed during halftime, and for the most part, I liked it. She and Bruno Mars were giving us a little Janet and Michael in their choreography, the only thing I didn’t like was the theme Beyoncé went with. Yes! I said it.

Now I know what y’all are going to say, why am I hating? She is just trying to show black appreciation during these pearl times when anti-blackness is reaching its peak. I get it. In all seriousness, I’m not trying to rain on her parade. However, the history of the Black Panther party resonated something in me to write this and the role that black women had to endure participating in this memorable movement.

The socialist party was created in Oakland, California in 1966. The mission of the group was providing education to youth, shelter, gun rights, and most famously being pro-black. Very good intent, but, unfortunately, some individuals sought after personal gain and to top it off with misogynoir.

You have many women who were prominent figures in the BBP who witness male-chauvinism first hand. Assata Shakur even recounted that “you had to develop this whole arrogant kind of macho style in order to be heard.” Elaine Brown, a former chairwoman of the Black Panther party, left the organization after Huey Newton issued corporal punishment on an administrator of the Panther Liberation School (Regina Davis) for reprimanding a coworker who didn’t do his work.

Regina Jennings (former member based in California) who was treated poorly by her captain because she ignored his advances. Eldridge Cleaver, a respected but not well-liked leader, was known for beating his wife Kathleen Cleaver. To make matters worse Mr. Cleaver was a convicted rapist with black and white women. Even though gender equality was implemented by the organization, it failed to deliver its favoritism towards masculinity.

Unfortunately, that’s what the theme of her performance resonated with me. Misogynoir, and it is still prevalent today. I won’t lie, it hurts when I see or hear a black man displaying that behavior because it doesn’t unify the community or build trust in one another. Even though we are racially oppressed, black (cisgender) men still have male privileges that need to be taken into account, instead of being brushed under the rug while black women get ignored.

xo,
To’Wednesday Sibley

Yea…about Tomi Lahren

Okay, so about a month ago Tomi Lahren made a very interesting comment regarding Beyoncé performance at the 2016 Super Bowl. Tomi and many others alike were the least thrilled, and that’s okay, she doesn’t have to like it. However, I did find it hilarious that she felt the need to blasphemies the intent of the Black Lives Matter movement and spread a minority myth that blacks are the only ones looting a neighborhood.

Pretty darn sure the thought hadn’t crossed Tomi’s mind that looting is universal, even for people that look like her. Know what else I found quite interestingly odd? That she had the nerve to insinuate that Beyonce was using her fame for a political agenda to “overthrow white domination” these were Miss Lahren’s exact words.

She’s racist!

People like her don’t acknowledge what is going on in their own community, and diminishing others. Has the nerve to label, the Black Panther party as a terrorist group, but deflects her answers about the KKK. Tomi’s one of those people who feels the need to insert her superiority over someone and dictate how they should act. Bye, Stacey!